{"id":867,"date":"2014-09-26T07:01:23","date_gmt":"2014-09-26T14:01:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/insideout.insidewp.test\/?p=867"},"modified":"2014-09-26T07:01:23","modified_gmt":"2014-09-26T14:01:23","slug":"swords-guns-ruffians","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/abbotsfordchristian.com\/insideout\/2014\/09\/26\/swords-guns-ruffians\/","title":{"rendered":"Swords, Guns, and Ruffians"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ve come to the realization that I&#8217;m one of &#8220;those&#8221; moms. Back when Caleb was little, I was absorbing everything I could from the experienced moms around me, including strangers. I wanted to know how to do this mom thing right but probably more often than not I was making careful note of what I would never do. For example:<\/p>\n<p>I will never be one of &#8220;those&#8221; moms who chats at the playground, completely <strong><span style=\"color: #005693\">oblivious to their children<\/span><\/strong> playing wild chasing games, endangering my little one with their careless behaviour. Those ruffians! And the moms&#8230;don&#8217;t \u00a0they want to make the most of every moment to bond and connect with their\u00a0little ones?!\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #ffffff;background-color: #005693\"><strong>REALITY CHECK:<\/strong><\/span>\u00a0If there&#8217;s another adult around to chat with, stranger or not, I&#8217;m gonna grab my opportunity. And if it means my kids have a chance to burn off some energy without needing me for a few minutes, well, that&#8217;s a win-win situation for all.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I will never be one of &#8220;those&#8221; moms who lets their children out <strong><span style=\"color: #005693\">in public with bed\u00a0head<\/span><\/strong>, clothes that look like they were used as a napkin, and snot dripping from their nose.\u00a0<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #ffffff;background-color: #005693\"><strong>REALITY CHECK:<\/strong> <\/span>\u00a0Getting Caleb ready for an &#8220;outing&#8221; was a little different than getting Levi ready. For one thing, we&#8217;re always late.\u00a0Never mind the four\u00a0other boys, the school lunches that need to be made, the grocery list to be remembered, the fact that the only place to find clean undies is by rifling through the pile of unfolded laundry covering most of the couch and the fact that Levi dresses himself in the morning. So if the shorts are on backwards, the shirt&#8217;s been worn three\u00a0days in a row and the shoes are on the wrong feet&#8230;he&#8217;s still cute to me.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-873 size-full lazyload\" data-src=\"http:\/\/insideout2.insidewp.test\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/2\/2014\/09\/Laundry.jpg\" alt=\"Laundry\" width=\"805\" height=\"350\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/abbotsfordchristian.com\/insideout\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/4\/2014\/09\/Laundry-300x130.jpg 300w, https:\/\/abbotsfordchristian.com\/insideout\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/4\/2014\/09\/Laundry-768x334.jpg 768w, https:\/\/abbotsfordchristian.com\/insideout\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/4\/2014\/09\/Laundry.jpg 805w\" data-sizes=\"(max-width: 805px) 100vw, 805px\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 805px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 805\/350;\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I will never be one of &#8220;those&#8221; moms who let their children play with <strong><span style=\"color: #005693\">weapons of any kind<\/span><\/strong>. Nerf guns? Swords? Pirates? Bad guys? It&#8217;s all a matter of providing the appropriate toys and encouraging gentle, peaceful playtime activities.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #ffffff;background-color: #005693\"><strong>REALITY CHECK:<\/strong><\/span>\u00a0God gave me five boys and there&#8217;s nothing gentle or peaceful about it. I&#8217;ve tried! I really have! But it&#8217;s pointless. I might as well provide the foam sword because otherwise a random tree branch or a chunk of \u00a02\u00a0X\u00a04 will be used in the duel. And encouraging them to be GOOD guys?!\u00a0They&#8217;re willing to be good &#8220;bad guys&#8221; but seriously mom, don&#8217;t be such a girl!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I will never be one of &#8220;those&#8221; moms who lets the little ones <strong><span style=\"color: #005693\">grow up before their time<\/span><\/strong>, learning way too much from their older siblings. I will keep them young and innocent.\u00a0<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #ffffff;background-color: #005693\"><strong>REALITY CHECK:<\/strong> <\/span>*sniff*\u00a0 It&#8221;s hopeless. My 6-year-old can sing all the lyrics to <em>Dynamite<\/em>\u00a0and requests I sing it\u00a0to him as his lullaby.\u00a0 My 3-year-old wakes me up in the morning by pointing a mini hockey stick through the door and shouting, &#8220;Stick your hands up!!&#8221;\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>I AM one of &#8220;those&#8221; moms. Perhaps even the kind that has kids who other moms politely discourage their little ones from playing with. And that&#8217;s okay. \u00a0I love my gun-toting, yogurt-splattered, wild-haired, little ruffians.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;ve come to the realization that I&#8217;m one of &#8220;those&#8221; moms. Back when Caleb was little, I was absorbing everything I could from the experienced moms around me, including strangers. 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