{"id":4045,"date":"2019-06-18T07:16:09","date_gmt":"2019-06-18T14:16:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/insideout.abbotsfordchristian.com\/?p=4045"},"modified":"2025-02-22T13:31:33","modified_gmt":"2025-02-22T21:31:33","slug":"a-backpack-full-of-tween-stuff","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/abbotsfordchristian.com\/insideout\/2019\/06\/18\/a-backpack-full-of-tween-stuff\/","title":{"rendered":"A BACKPACK FULL OF TWEEN STUFF"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3>BY JUSTIN VERWOERD, EDUCATIONAL ASSISTANT<\/h3>\n<p>When I started my job at ACS Middle, I thought it was perfect: work starts at 8:00 am, meal breaks at 10:30 am and 12 noon, and the weekly schedule is generally unchanging.<\/p>\n<p>I was cruising. The perfect job for me.<\/p>\n<p>Well, anyone who works at a school, has children, or really, whoever has ever been a child knows that my perception of a school day had somehow been terribly skewed in the 9 or so years since my graduation.<\/p>\n<h2>Seems Simple Enough<\/h2>\n<p>As I end my second year as an educational assistant, I can confidently say that my hopes have been dashed, my comfort shaken, and my mind fundamentally stretched to oblivion.<\/p>\n<p>And I\u2019ve loved every minute of it.<\/p>\n<p>Somehow, I\u2019ve grown more in love, more confident and happier than before.<\/p>\n<p>Before I started this job, I thought kids\u2019 lives were simple. Just do your work at school, and you\u2019ll be fine. Be a good kid; you\u2019ll get by. <span style=\"color: #266092;\"><strong>Somehow, in my adulthood, I had forgotten the stress and uncertainty of humanity for a twelve-year-old.<\/strong><\/span> Lucky for me and my love for simplicity and regularity, the stresses of the students in my care often fall in some way or another on me.<\/p>\n<h2>Just a Typical Day<\/h2>\n<p>Here is a quick snapshot of what I hear on an (almost) daily basis:<\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cJustin! You forgot to do the dishes!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cMr. Verwoerd, can you unlock the classroom?\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cYou forgot to sign my agenda yesterday, Mr. Verwoerd!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cMr. Verwoerd, can you remember to tell the teacher I\u2019m afraid of bees?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cMr. Verwoerd, Chelsea\u2019s chasing me!\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cMr. Verwoerd, Bobby hit Chelsea!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cI don\u2019t feel good, Mr. Verwoerd.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cMr. Verwoerd, Tom puked in the bathroom!\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cMr. Verwoerd, can you watch my classroom for a bit?\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cWant to switch supervision, Mr. Verwoerd?\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cMr. Verwoerd, you didn\u2019t tell me I had to study this part\u2026\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cI\u2019m not having a good day, Mr. Verwoerd.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cMr. Verwoerd, I don\u2019t think I can ever understand this!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em> \u201cMr. Verwoerd, I think I want to drop out.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cMr. Verwoerd, I don\u2019t fit in here.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cI want to do bad things to the school, Mr. Verwoerd.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cMr. Verwoerd, my parents don\u2019t love each other anymore.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cMr. Verwoerd, I don\u2019t think I believe in God.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cMr. Verwoerd, I hate you.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cI\u2019d rather be hit by a truck than be here, Mr. Verwoerd.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>These aren\u2019t frivolous things. The stresses these kids endure can\u2019t be quieted by \u201cbeing a good kid\u201d or working hard.<\/p>\n<p>They are real.<\/p>\n<h2>Love It and Chuck It<\/h2>\n<p>I would gladly lay down my life for any of my students without hesitation and yet when I think about the future and staying in my position; things become a little foggier. My chief responsibility is not only helping students with academic improvement; it&#8217;s taking on the insecurity, chaos, and uncertainty existing in my student\u2019s lives. Maybe that is scarier than death.<\/p>\n<p>But somehow, however unscheduled and simply crazy this reality has become, I adore my job, and even more, I adore the children making my daily routine an utter mess.<\/p>\n<p>I think it works that I hate uncertainty as much as I do. I think it helps me work as hard as I can to help heal some of the stress in my students\u2019 lives. I\u2019ll take on my kids\u2019 \u201cstuff\u201d as long as I need to in order to help them, and at the end of the day, <span style=\"color: #266092;\"><strong>if my backpack full of tween stress is too heavy, I\u2019ll chuck it and do it again tomorrow.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>I encourage my kids (and myself too) with some words from James 1, \u201c<em>Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I take the daily chaos as an opportunity, not only to help grow the students under my care but to produce perseverance in my own life.<\/p>\n<p>Besides, I work at a school; I get the weekends off.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>BY JUSTIN VERWOERD, EDUCATIONAL ASSISTANT When I started my job at ACS Middle, I thought it was perfect: work starts at 8:00 am, meal breaks at 10:30 am and 12 noon, and the weekly schedule is generally unchanging. 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